Stress management: how to control your emotions

We are living in an age of technologies which erases the borders, speeds everything up and makes life easier. However, the modern technologies also make us stress-vulnerable. How to control our personal mental reactions? Let’s find it out from the CALENDULA doctor — Pavel Bigori who makes specialty out of the stress management.

There are so many people nowadays who claim to have stress. What does this word mean?

Talking in medical terms, stress is a non-specific reaction of an organism on any irritant both physical or mental. Also, it is a current state of our nervous system in general caused by this reaction.

So, any painful condition causes stress?

No matter if you are poked or scared, or feel nervous before the exam — the reaction of your body is the same. It is worth noticing that the reaction is similar, regardless of the causing factor. At first, the sympathetic nervous system is activated, then, the parasympathetic system arouses — everything in your body works like a mirror. All the cycles go over and over during the day.

More often, stress is connected with a specific psycho-emotional state. But what causes it — physiological or psychological factor?

After the “stress” term was added to the medicine guides, it transformed into a social phenomenon and seems to be a trend right now. Naturally, psychological stress is the same thing as a physiological one, the only difference lies in the cause and effect. Our body is a structure that has both physical and mental parts (the last one is the so-called soul). When both parts stay in harmony, the body is balanced and mirror rhythms are working as they should. A human gets an impulse, active principles response, reactions start and go; then we have a period of relaxation and the body works as usual again. Unfortunately, in most cases, we can’t react to the irritants properly.

Why the wrong reaction appears?

It goes to show, the social norms and behavioral stereotypes that are imposed unconsciously are the main reasons. For example, since childhood, we must meet some requirements. Schools and society, our parents and relatives have lots of criteria for us. Time flies, and many years after we think that we will get a punishment if do not cope with some task well. Naturally, stress, the release of hormones and other active principles will cause an unpleasant effect on our health in this case.

Does stress management help in this situation?

Yes, stress management is a range of rules to help overcome the negative thoughts, emotions and situations in general.

Which methods do you suggest?

You need to change the way how you feel about this or that situation. Byzantine sages proclaimed many years ago that you should live for today. If a man stays in the current moment, he understands what he is doing and is responsible for his deeds. It helps to reduce the negative impact of stress on the organism. But if one lives in the past, analyzes affairs of bygone days, tries to figure out whether he made the right or wrong choice, he feels guilty. This feeling leads to stress. That means adrenaline, norepinephrine, cortisol and many other molecules are constantly released in the body without any exogenous irritants. All these processes cause physiological and mental disorders.

Many people are scared about the future…

You are completely right. It is the second most popular reason to be stressed. When a man thinks about tomorrow constantly, he is anxious. There are so many things that may happen tomorrow — and you never know how everything may turn out. That is why it is useless to ask yourself “What if?” constantly. You won’t be able to make the right decision anyway. That is why stress management teaches how to reflect on the stereotypes and change the way of thinking.

Does stress management touch the past and future only?

No, it teaches how to look at any situation on various sides. Let’s take a married couple’s divorce in terms of the example. There are three different points of view here: wife, husband and third-party observer – each one has own feelings and thoughts. If we learn how to be a third-party observer in any personal situation, we will find out how to reduce negative emotions and forget about stress at all. It is the really simple way to get better and there’s nothing hard about it. Just look at the situation from different perspectives, find all pros and cons, make a thoughtful decision.

How to get out of the focusing illusion?

In psychiatry, Taoist techniques are used to make a person return and repeat the traumatic situation. After all, the deeper we hide this energy, the faster it will break out and the harder impact we will gain — with panic attacks, depression, anxiety. It is necessary to feel the past situation in intimate detail: smells, voices, sounds, etc. The really strong emotions or even tears will come first. But after a while, after you repeat this situation in your mind for 10 or 20 times, you will see it from another perspective and won’t feel pain anymore. Do not chide yourself for what happened or didn’t happen. A certain choice was made. Now, if you want to change something, do it, and everything will change around you. Any actions change our future.

    • Everyone should be responsible and take rap.
    • Additionally, be aligned with yourself but do not follow the other ones’ expectations.

How does Ayurveda understand stress?

According to Ayurveda, stress comes from tamas. When a person links himself to material things, he is scared to lose them all. If a person doesn’t develop his mental side, he is closer to tamas energy that leads to stress and aggression, negative emotions or depression. For example, depression is when you are angry at yourself. If you live consciously, you see another, sattvic way — in other words, divine way. It goes up only. When you pursue a goal, dedicate yourself to your work or hobby – stress fades out.

How parents can help children to overcome life challenges?

Children need freedom. Do not change them but motivate and develop their personal abilities. The educational system equates people. Unfortunately, school marks drop the child’s self-esteem. However, every kid needs to feel love, needs to be motivated and praised. If you make them do something, you will evoke resistance and guilt. Your child will think that he is not good enough for you. It will cause massive stress.

Which methods to manage stress are used in CALENDULA? CALENDULA?

As for the treatment in CALENDULA is based on Ayurveda, all the procedures are relaxing. Once your nervous system is calm, there is no room for stress. Abhyanga-massage, Shirodhara, Netra Basti have the best effect. Herbal medicine is used to support the neuroendocrine system too. In addition, we practice acupuncture sessions, moxa-therapy based on traditional Chinese medicine as well as physiotherapy and yoga. Physical exercises boost patients’ spirits, stimulate the endorphins, serotonin and enkephalins production.